The start of a new year is the perfect time to look more deeply at your relationship and change the things that aren’t working or plan for the future. Even if you have just started seeing someone, it is good to find out if he is a keeper or a time-waster.
A popular Berkshire Rabbi, Dr Jonathan Romain of the Maidenhead synagogue, created a test to help couples figure out whether they are compatible. Research shows that one in two marriages ends in divorce around the world. However, with his test, Dr Jonathan hopes to reduce the odds of divorce to one in sixteen.
Some questions in the test are light-hearted, but others require deep probing about your partner’s future plans and aspirations. For a good and successful marriage, you really need to know your partner well.
Dr Jonathan argues that marriage is the biggest gamble people ever take. And marriage is all about second-guessing how suitable a partner will be for you in the future. The test acts as an eye-opener to pitfalls that later end up in divorce.
With Valentine’s Day just a few days away, Discovering Her decided to recreate the tests for both parties. This is a test that you can take together with your partner to measure how well you know each other.
If you have just started dating, this test can make you realise that you are not as suited as you first thought. On the other hand, it is a great conversation starter. And if you want to deepen your bond, really get to know your partner, these are the questions to ask.
YOU:
♥ If he could order any takeaways, what would he choose?
♥ What are his three main personality traits?
♥ In the future, does he want pets? If so, what?
♥ What would you most like to change about him?
♥ Are there any foods he doesn’t like? Which ones are they?
♥ What would you say is his worst habit?
♥ What would he say was the best moment of his life?
♥ What would he like to achieve in the future?
♥ What has been the saddest moment of his life?
♥ Does he want children? If yes, how many?
♥ What does he want your children to grow to be?
♥ Do you split the cost of dates equally?
♥ Does she want a joint or separate bank account, or both?
♥ What would you say is the biggest mistake he has ever made?
♥ What traditions does his family have that he particularly enjoys doing?
♥ Where’s his dream holiday destination?
♥ Who does he look up to the most?
♥ Where is his dream holiday destination?
♥ Who does he look up to the most?
♥ Does he try to save money when he gets paid?
♥ Where would he like to be living in five years?
♥ Do you find it easy to choose a birthday gift for him?
HIM:
♥ If she could order any takeaways, what would she choose?
♥ What are her three main personality traits?
♥ In the future, does she want pets? If so, what?
♥ What would you most like to change about her?
♥ Are there any foods she doesn’t like? Which ones are they?
♥ What would you say is her worst habit?
♥ What would she say was the best moment of her life?
♥ What would she like to achieve in the future?
♥ What has been the saddest moment of her life?
♥ Does she want children? If yes, how many?
♥ What does she want your children to grow to be?
♥ Do you split the cost of dates equally?
♥ Does she want a joint or separate bank account, or both?
♥ What would you say is the biggest mistake she has ever made?
♥ What traditions does her family have that she particularly enjoys doing?
♥ Where’s her dream holiday destination?
♥ Who does she look up to the most?
♥ Where is her dream holiday destination?
♥ Who does she look up to the most?
♥ Does she try to save money when she gets paid?
♥ Where would she like to be living in five years?
♥ Do you find it easy to choose a birthday gift for her?
How to score:
Fifteen answers correct – Great future ahead!
Nine to fourteen correct – You are heading in the right direction, but don’t get married just yet. You need to have discussions on deeper issues in each other’s lives.
Fewer than eight correct – If you have plans, put them on hold. Wait till you really know the person you think you know. ♥
Mourine Warui is a media and communication expert and seasoned writer. Her goal is to empower and offer solutions to everyday girl’s problems while provoking candid and authentic conversations. Other goals are to provide inspiration and entertainment to readers through creative, thought-provoking and edgy stories.
