Did you know that many relationships die at first base due to poor kissing? According to a study done in The Journal of Evolutionary Psychology, 60% of the group in the study lost attraction to people they fancied after kissing them. Bad kissing kills the attraction altogether.
For many years, women have been taught to take their cues from men. Whether it’s in dancing, dating or marriage. Therefore, we have learnt the subtle art of hiding behind the men we date. As a result, we get away with many things in relationships, including bad kissing.
It is hard for your man to tell you that you are a bad kisser. However, there will be signs that tell it all. You will also feel that something is off. So, instead of rolling down the pit hole of self-consciousness and regret, empower yourself and step into your power. Here are signs that indicate you need to improve your kissing skills.
You Don’t Open Up.
Due to the conditioning of waiting on the man, sometimes a kissing moment can catch you off guard. Perhaps you had been daydreaming about it, and now it’s happening! You freak out and panic, especially when your heartbeat is the loudest thing in the room. Thus, you sit there with your lips tightly shut when someone else is trying to nibble on them!!
Don’t worry, it happens. But this can’t be the narrative every time. In the book “The Art of Kissing,” the author states that the biggest mistake women make in kissing is holding back. They don’t open their mouths wide enough for a decent kiss.
The next time someone tries to kiss you, open your mouth a little bit wider. Not to the extreme, though; you are not trying to swallow anything. Find a balance and you will be good.
You Have Bad Breath.
According to a survey done on NationToday.com, the most significant sign of a bad kisser is bad breath. Bad breath is a deal breaker in all fronts, but especially when kissing. It is the fastest way to kill a perfect attraction.
Therefore, maintain basic oral hygiene. Brush your teeth twice a day and floss every day. You can also visit the dentist’s office for a check-up. Also, ensure you are well hydrated and your throat is not dry.
A packet of mints comes in handy when you are in doubt. Just pop one for fresh breath. Also, carry your lip gloss with you at all times; nobody wants to kiss chapped lips. Plus, a variety of flavourful gloss can spice things up.
Your Kisses Are Sloppy.
If you notice your partner wiping their face after kissing you, then perhaps you give sloppy kisses. A sloppy kiss is a big, wet, open-mouthed kiss with lots of saliva. Sloppy kisses, especially aggressive ones, are an absolute cringe. There is a difference between kissing and licking, honey!
However, writer and sex expert Kayla Lords explains that people are different and have varying kissing techniques. What works for you may not work for another person. Thus, it’s wise to take cues from each other while kissing or have a conversation about it upfront.
If your partner finds the sloppy kisses sexy, by all means, enjoy your wet faces. But if not, you are probably doing too much and need to reel in some of that action.
You Are a Dead Fish Kisser.
The ‘men should do it all’ mentality is deeply conditioned in many women, and the result of it is dead fish kissers. A dead fish kisser is a lazy kisser with no passion or enthusiasm. They are just there, waiting to receive or worse, lying like a dead fish.
For two consenting adults, kissing is a two-way affair. Therefore, there should be mutual passion or desire. Being a dead fish kisser gives the perception that you are zoned out, uninterested or bored. You don’t have to be a kissing expert, but for God’s sake, make an effort, move your lips at least!
You Are Darting Your Tongue.
When used correctly, the tongue is an essential component of kissing. The tongue should be used gently and consistently in line with the rhythm of kissing. Together, this makes for a perfect kiss.
Now, if you use your tongue sporadically and frantically, it seems like you are darting in and out of your partner’s mouth. And that is not a pretty picture. If you do this, you can be sure that the kissing will immediately stop.
On that note, don’t shove your tongue down their throat; it’s gross and unfun. You don’t want anyone throwing up on your face. If you are confused about what to do with your tongue, leave it. Let it be.
If you do all the above, then you are a bad kisser. Worry not, because these are things you can work on with your partner. ❤️
